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This question has probably been raised at least once before, so I apologise if I’m going over old grounds. But it’s a topic that seems quite important to consider when seeking a like-minded person to start a relationship with, or once you find the right person and are discussing what you each expect or need from that special bond.
My experiences so far have always been with dry suckling, which is more than enough to satisfy my own desires. I’m well aware of the great efforts needed to induce, not to mention how tricky it can be to work this around our everyday lives. And even if successful, there’s the challenge of keeping the milk flowing while keeping your relationship discreet, suckling (or pumping) at regular times each day without the risk of leaking or arousing suspicion from workmates, friends and relatives.
Some ladies long to embrace this power for the sake of their partner, and may even try to induce on their own. I praise those who do make this brave choice, although personally I feel it’s only fair to induce with the help of a constant partner, who understands the mutual commitment involved and is willing to play his part. Also, I’m concerned that the end result should be to both partner’s benefits, and not like a daily chore. With a lactating relationship, you are both bound to a strict nursing schedule, whereas with dry suckling, you can nurse as little or as often as you both wish or can, which can vary depending on each day of the week.
So my question to ask, for those of you who have experienced a lactating relationship, is are you happy with how things turned out? Did any of you begin with dry suckling then induce?
Hi Rob!
I’m an odd ball in this entire lifestyle. I started my induced lactation last August after I learned about induced lactation and it’s potential possibility.
Personally myself, I’m a lifestyle swinger so not interested in a happily ever after type partnership, I already have that box checked. My husband however isn’t interested in breast play or physiology so I’ve been also including dry lactation into my daily pumping routine through other relationships. Most people I know are extremely prejudicial over their sexuality even though they express their interest or involvement in physical or sexual desires. Almost all wish to keep their interest and involvement a personal secret and often have difficulty dealing with their own interest and that of their partner.
Everyone I know is aware of my induced lactation so there’s no need to be closeted about my sexuality or desires. I pretty much whip them out and pump anywhere as well as nurse anywhere. If anyone is offended they can look the other way, what I’m doing is perfectly natural and steeped in thousands of years of history.
I’ve been happy with all of my choices.
Hello madam!
Many thanks for relating your own insights. It’s true that many of us prefer to keep our physical and/or sexual desires to ourselves or within close circles, usually for fear of being misjudged or harassed by those who don’t understand our views. I completely agree with you that there should be no shame in doing something mother nature intended, and has been done freely for thousands of years.
It must be such a confidence boost for everyone you know to be aware of your desires and lifestyle. As you so rightly say, anyone who may not like it for whatever reason could simply turn a blind eye and let it be. In an ideal world, all women should be free to reveal their tops, just as men do, and use their breasts as they wish without unfair comment. But sadly, modern society usually has quite different views, hence the need for some of us to be discreet until things change for the better.
What I really want to know is how lactation compares to dry nursing. Keeping milk in relies on emptying the breasts several times a day, and I’m sure it’s much better – if not more comfortable – with a human mouth than by pumping. But in my case, allowing for work patterns and other commitments, I’d probably only be able to breastfeed at one or two regular times each day. Of course, breastmilk works on the ‘supply and demand’ principle, so it may be possible to maintain a milk flow with less daily feeds. But would couples still enjoy it as much? Or might some people choose to merely dry nurse instead?
He called you madam 🙂
Greetings,
So, the man whom I nurse, just started dry suckling. Her wants milk but I’m in no position to do so much work right now. He’s persistent and suckles me for about an hour or maybe two depending.
I prefer full breastfeeding; but understand that some women can’t. So I don’t mind dry suckling, boobs are just fun.
@Rob87 most couples and individuals choose to simply dry nurse for all of the reasons you stated so well. It takes a lot of time commitment and interaction. Work schedules do not often permit this level of suckling, which is perfectly ok. Lactation requires regular suckling or pumping to achieve, as well as then regularly to relieve the pressure and discomfort; unless both partners are willing to commit to this level of effort and time schedule, dry suckling really is often the better option. Each couple needs to decide and make the choices that work for them.
Milk is not the focus of abf/anr, much to the surprise of many young or inexperienced men and women. Closeness, interaction, increasing intimacy, etc. THAT is the focus and benefit of abf/anr…milk, if it comes, is just a cherry on top. Can certainly do without. In fact, those who focus and prioritize milk have lost or completely missed the best part of abf/anr. It isn’t fulfilled with a pump for most of us.
Rob
An inducing schedule is different than a supply maintenance schedule. Inducing is a trying and challenging journey. Mind you while in this lifestyle I haven’t yet reached full lactation but I found 2 suckles and 2 pumps a day to be more than enough to sustain my supply.
I personally find magic in making milk. It personally helps me feel even more empowered and confident.
Having said that, I fully agree that full lactation is a decision for both parties. For me, it is totally worth it. Nothing properly replaces the magic of the letdown response for me.
I have had so many mixed feelings following this thread, I am a woman who is on the lactation journey on her own, it isn’t easy but it its one of the most empowering things I have done.I don’t know where it will end but this single woman wants to try and nurture not just by dry suckling but hopefully through breastfeeding.
Lets just say I support all of the posters, but above all it is a matter of personal choice whether by a couple or a single person.I think we all can respect that.
@flowrgardn You’re absolutely right about not letting milk become the core focus of an ABF/AN relationship. It’s all about the deep sensual bond suckling creates, which works just as well without milk at all. Personally, I relish dry nursing for its power of relieving stress – that wonderful out-of-worldly sensation of being completely relaxed and free from troubles. To my mind, that is the real superpower a woman’s breasts can offer, besides the unbreakable maternal connection. Any men who just long to enjoy mother nature’s tailored nourishment are certainly missing out on something far more magical. And it’s often impractical, if not near impossible, to make it work around our hectic and frequently varied daily lives. So, as much as I would love to experience the gift of breastmilk someday, a dry suckling relationship is all I truly wish for.
@roseknows I’ve known at least one other person who felt empowered by lactating, so you’re not alone. It’s probably one of the many reasons women may choose to breastfeed. And I’d once read somewhere that it is possible to maintain a steady flow, without having to induce a full one, through a few suckles and pumps each day. So thank you for confirming that ability.
@boudica Your desire is also shared by many others, and I can assure you that your efforts will not likely be in vain. Another woman on this site actually succeeded at inducing while I was corresponding with her, and like yourself she was a single girl trying all on her own, so I know it’s possible with patience and determination. May I wish you the best of luck on your journey.Thank you to everyone for your views and insights. It’s such a great help to discuss these important yet delicate topics with so many like-minded people.
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