“Dried up” in Utah – Advice about finding a partner

[Anonymous]

Hello ABF community! For those of you who have partners or who have found partners in the past, what worked best for you? I’ve been searching for several months on various platforms (ABFHeaven, Fetlife, and Reddit, but have not yet found a partner in Utah – it guess this place really is a desert😜 I am respectful in my messaging and postings and I think I’m a decent-looking human, but I have not received many responses. What approach works – maybe holding a sign outside of Target that says “ISO ANR/ABF” and see how many people actually know what that stands for?😆 but seriously, what has worked best for ya’ll? Thanks in advance☺️

[Mpen]

Hi Kevin, I’m also in Utah…it most definitely is a desert here.
Best advice is patience and perseverance. Be polite and understanding.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, Mpen!

[Ivie]

I’ve been looking since the beginning of this year. As a female, my priority is my safety so if I feel someone is too pushy or sketchy in their messages then I don’t follow through. I am concerned about things like are you gonna drug or kidnap me etc. I am petite after all. I haven’t met one here on ABF but I have met three on other sites and it didn’t work out after 1-2 meetings. I find it frustrating as a female because by the second meeting, they always want sex or reciprocation so that has made me cautious with meeting someone here.

[Ivie]

Then one of them gave me a skin rash so I’ve been extremely cautious.

[Anonymous]

Okay… This place is a dessert by all means.
I don’t think that You sound like someone negative and You come across as a respectful guy… I’ve been here for about a year in the same situation, but no takers… there are Not many Women who are willing nor interested in sharing in this Most Wonderful and Amazingly Beautiful form of Human connection with one another…

I just think that it’s considered taboo here… so no point in trying to figure out the why… or even putting blame on anything… but I really liked Your idea of a sign advertising the Need for ANR/ABF… but then how do You explain to those curious about it without getting slapped in the face…
Maybe advertising and creating a physical group that may bring in possible “Takers” into investigating and perhaps joining the group??? SIGN ME UP!!! =) LoL!

[Anonymous]

Thanks, Krizz, I appreciate the kind words, empathy, and support. Vous parles francaise? J’ai vi que tu t’appele “dublait”…CA c’est interesante. J’espaire que tu puisse encontrer une bonne “partner” aussie! Bon chance a nous deux!!😁

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