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So, I’ve been reading the topic opened by Greg where people write the thoughts they’re having while nursing. It turns out that many people nurse not out of sexual desire, but to relax and to meditate.
For me it’s quite the contrary. Breasts symbolize life and as mammals we depend on milk. Without it we wouldn’t exist. The thought of sheer dependence arouses me.
“Without your boobs I wouldn’t exist.
You are thus superior to me.
Even just one of your boobs is more valuable than me. ”That’s the mantra that currently keeps reappearing in my head while I am typing this post.
Hi Markus.
You’re quite right about how breasts are a source of life, and some people can indeed be aroused by them, which is perfectly normal within the deep sensual intimacy of nursing. But breasts don’t just produce the vital milk that helps us mammals to grow and develop. They’re also a source of love and psychological wellbeing, as they form a maternal bond between either mother and child or woman and partner.
Breasts can offer comfort to a young child who’s tired, distressed or frightened. Just resting their head against the warm soft tissue, or latching onto a nipple, can help the child relax and find security. That sensual power works equally well whether there’s milk or not, and it also has the same effects for grown adults.
I myself enjoy nursing for this meditative quality, as it not only induces relaxation, but reduces anxiety. Any stress or fear in my mind simply fades away through this maternal comfort, as it acts as a kind of spiritual healing. A few times, I’ve almost drifted off to sleep while still latched on, so it’s deeply relaxing and satisfying to me. But everyone is different, so if you find breasts and nursing to be more arousing than relaxing, that’s fine.
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For me it depends. I have had sex while nursing and in that situation the breasts and nursing are more sexual so obviously I am turned on by them. But if it’s just a calm, relaxing, nurturing nursing session I’m not usually sexually aroused. But having an erection while nursing I think isn’t that uncommon but it for me at least it means more contentment then being sexually aroused. So I guess my answer is basically both. Haha.
Now that is a complicated and interesting question. Aspects of both do exist, the details of the situation dictates which of the two is felt at a given time.
The platonic relaxation element is usually the one that I fixate on. When I imagine a generic, pleasant nursing experience, that’s what comes to mind first. And of the two, it seems that this is the much easier interaction to have. Even if there was zero sexual attraction, it would still be possible to get close and nurse just the same.
And if the other person was very attractive, the process would have began the exact same way. The one thing that’s different is that in that case it would have felt especially rewarding for me if my handiwork has caused this attractive woman to experience pleasant feelings. And there are many pleasant feelings that could be seen here, but even just simple relaxation would do.
From there it could build to other, more sensual things. The sensual/sexual aspect of nursing comes into play for me only if the situation has built its way up from that foundation. There are a number of kinks that could be appealed to, but for the sake of this conversation let’s disregard them entirely. Just at the rudimentary level of “nursing has made this attractive woman feel good” could boil over to pure sexuality just with those two ingredients- how attractive she is, and just how good it has made her feel.
It CAN be both for me, but it isn’t always. It depends on her. If she get aroused then I more than likely will. If she’s still and just enjoying it, I will relax and fight drifting off to sleep.
I’d really welcome more women’s input here to get a true indication
Yes, ladies, I would like to hear your side as well. Btw, do you like it when a man treats you as superior for the sake of passion, or do you think it’s dehumanizing?
As a woman I would say both, depending on the situation, also depending on mood, time of day etc, so yes bit of an either/or for me. I’m currently pumping and even just that can be either a turn on or feel like a relaxing peaceful time for me.
My sessions ebb and flow in regards to arousal and relaxation for both parties. When getting to know someone online, the connection/attraction is based on pictures and conversation. When finally in real life for a session, there is definitely a level of arousal. As adults, are we really looking at the nurturing aspect first??? I ask this because if so there wouldn’t be a level of rejection based on physical attraction.
When I say the arousal level flows throughout the session, I’ve NEVER met with a man even in a plutonic situation that doesn’t become aroused by the female body, for our purposes; breast. When nursing and my partner has a good latch, there is no sexual arousal on my side, however, he may be sexually aroused but does not need to be further stimulated. Both of us can be in this relaxed/nurturing state for quite a while. If nipple stimulation is introduced the nurturing, motherly, relaxing mindset is gone. My partners and I are very familiar with each other and know when and where for special touches to heighten/arouse and nurture/calm/ relax.
Of all the men I’ve met with (it hasn’t been a lot), they’ve required a happy ending, but that doesn’t always require my assistance. Never have I ever been with a guy who was never aroused at any point during a session, nor would I expect that of any man. I believe takes self-awareness and restraint for men to remain in that relaxed state and honor women’s boundaries while nursing. I truly appreciate the men who are self-aware.
That’s a very informative answer, thank you very much. I think the perception of your partners resonates with my own to some extent. I would probably be able to relax, but it would require an additional effort. Also, if I didn’t reach any orgasm eventually, I think I would remain dissatisfied. Therefore, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy a breastfeeding experience within a platonic relationship.
If a normal friend asked me to latch on to her nipples, I would feel extremely embarrassed and uncomfortable. Breastfeeding is something I associate with a forbidden and erotic desire, that requires an intimate and sexual relationship in order to be satisfied.I hope I don’t sound like an absolute creep, but if my views are tolerated anywhere, it’s probably on this site.
That being said, I don’t know how a woman may feel about her own body and about her own role within a relationship and thus I don’t know if my desires will ever be compatible with the ones of a potential partner. Perhaps I will have to change my mindset completely. I am willing to adapt, of course.
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