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Thank you everyone for responding. Leaves food for thought. I’m currently reading the book The Body Keeps the Score which is all about trauma and abuse and it’s very interesting.
My problem isn’t so much the information been disclosed to me as if I knew someone a while it would be fine but it’s that it’s almost immediately disclosed and in one case was the first message I received before any introductions.
Ps Natural your very hot yourself.
That is an interesting observation, Ms. Juicy.. from Ireland. I applaud you sharing and voicing both boundaries and concern. I have noticed among several of my friends that both participants were damaged, and found each other to make a whole. This may be along the realm of coping together. As for me, my instinct is a bit different. I don’t have an experience that I would identify as a trauma, childhood or adult, despite being in combat, or witnessing death or dying, or horror professionally. For me, I find that women who enjoy this deep relationship are generally supportive, mother-earthly rooted human beings. They bring caring instincts and excellent boundary controls. Generally, they are sincere, responsible to a fault, and have as much or more to give than any in their cohort age group. In short, I have found women who migrate here, do so because they fit, and are willing to engage in an ANR, or ABF, or whatever definition of shared breast involvement you choose, and are some of the most honest and emotionally stable women I have ever met. They are not without flaws, of course, no one is… but, they are so much more emotionally available and bring me peace. And men will tell you, that after a day of slaying dragons 🐉, coming home to emotional peace is the best breast thing in the world. And that’s all about that.
@matureazmalelatch after a day of slaying dragons coming home to emotional peace sums up everything in once sentence for me. Thank you. Lovely words.
I did not suffer abuse as a child or felt abandoned. I come from a two parent household. For me this desire came with the birth of my first child over 25 years ago and persisted even before I knew this was called ANR. I also deployed to Iraq, suffered burnout there but no diagnosed PTSD. I have been evaluated twice for mental health and only diagnosed with mild depression which is not uncommon for those with high IQ like myself.
I have thought about this a lot and ANR for me is primarily love and acceptance as my love languages are quality time and physical touch. It also reduces stress and is comforting. And I have a bit of a sweet tooth as well.
I wonder though if the law of attraction is playing out. I have noticed as well that I seem to attract ladies with mental health problems from singles events, dating apps, and so forth. So I am working on myself, profiles, and so forth so my vibe/being attracts the person I am looking for.
No trauma or abuse from my life, for me, it’s the beautiful feeling from suckling on a beautiful breast that drives me every day, the passion I have for ABF I doubt many of you would not come close to matching.
Happy suckles
Good luck in your search Juicyboobies
Ps have a special day on Saturday xI think it is important that we mention that there are a few (or many) women here that have felt that denial and withholding of love from a maternal person that has driven them here also. Though I hate that we men have to compete with them, I so wish their comfort to be completed effectively and finally. I have no idea how long it might take to have that longing sated… but it is real and should be made right again. God bless you women that will right their hurt also!!
I think it absolutely does. Even for the ppl who don’t realize it.
And it may not be what ppl think.
Abuse comes in many forms. Not just from childhood. But, war, family, previous partners. It’s everywhere. Neglect. Some families don’t hug, or show emotion.
Alot of my experience are the damaged ones who need a little more TLC.
I’ve had men 10 years later, message me to tell me, that my embrace, my nurturing side was one they miss and sought after.. for many years. Either found it, or never did. It’s humbling.
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Hi, Juicy, I would love to talk about this. But not in public. DM me, please.
Your last remark hits the nail on the head: we are not therapists!
I for one can attest to this theory. I also believe it can be very healing for both parties. As I’ve found some women into ABF can have a level of trauma too. Having experienced ABF with someone extremely special, on the exact level I’ve always craved and even beyond, I have been taken to a place I never felt possible. It has certainly healed some past trauma but more importantly become something else. A unique connection to someone that I will forever be grateful to have found.
It’s not just men. Women too have experienced abuse, trauma, sometimes even a broken home can bring that on. Women who find men a threat will often feel much more comfortable with another woman. The right breast is a place where comfort is found, a safe place, where you are able to be beautifully vulnerable. Do be careful who you share that vulnerability with though.
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