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This has happened to me quite a few times, can anyone explain?
I will be chatting with somebody and exchanging a lot of messages/chat. They are often quite new to the site and more often than not are attached or married, which may be relevant but then they suddenly delete their account and the conversations remain in the messages but “deleted user” becomes their screen name. Their profile disappears too of course. I wonder, does guilt get the better of them (happy for others to disagree but most would see even platonic ABF/ANR with another as cheating if they don’t know about it) or do they get discovered/caught out messaging? Generally their last message has been on the lines of asking me about meeting or wanting to chat more or elsewhere and literally there has never been any issue before they’ve suddenly disappeared. Are they deleted by the Admin and if so why? I’m really curious 🙂
I’ve been a member since around the beginning of the year and this has happened to me several times. Usually they amass a high number of friends before deleting or being deleted, not sure which one. There was one who I made the admin aware of as I suspected she was a catfish, but apparently after some checks she turned out to be who she said she was. Not sure what checks the admins can do to confirm that someone is not a catfish, but hey ho. Needless to say that woman ended up becoming ‘deleted user’ within a few days.
I see repeat members coming back. There was one person who used the same name and profile pic on two different profiles by my count. Both were a few months apart, both collected somewhere around 20 friends within a few days and then were gone. Not sure what to make of all of that. Can’t answer your question, but I too am very curious.
There are several fake/fraudulent accounts, catfishing, with false information, portraying to be someone they’re not, and somewhere they’re not.
I have encountered several and was able to discover their lies.I have had this happen once. For me it’s more annoying then troubling but it’s still no good that so many accounts are not want they seem.
How can someone tell what’s a fake account to a real account and the lies
@lucy84, it happens due to several reasons. Sometime people decide to delete for their own reasons or they find a match etc. sometimes it gets deleted by admin if they receive numerous complaints from other members.
There are a variety of reasons this can happen. Whether the person deletes the account themselves or is banned by Admin, it has the same outward appearance to us users. Given the scenario where the person is a “cheater”, they tend to delete profiles, as not to leave a trail where they could get caught. But some people delete because they realize this isn’t what they thought it was, it’s too much work, it’s taking too long to find someone, they lose interest or weren’t truly interested in the first place, etc. On a positive note, they might have made a connection and taken themselves off the market. If deleted by Admin, which you won’t know, it could be for harassment, soliciting or offers to pay, catfishing, repeat warnings about inappropriate pictures or behavior, or various other infractions that make the community unsafe. The point being, it could be so many reasons either by the deleted user or by Admin, it’s rather pointless to speculate. You won’t know unless they come back and you can ask, but will they tell you the truth? 🤷♀️
If you’re curious then you can always message Michael-Admin and he’ll tell you if they’ve deleted their account themselves or he’s deleted them due to either complaints or catfishing. I have asked him the same in the past n he was very helpful ❤️
I think if it’s meant to be then it will be…. You may have dodged a bullet 🤷♀️ Take care n best of luck with your search hun x
In general:
The vast, vast majority of users deleted by Admin happens shortly after they register, while they are still in “unapproved” status and are unable to contact anyone.
This includes liars/spammers/scammers/hookers/repeat-offenders/etc. and all the rest who need to be kept off this site so it remains the – relatively – civilized meeting place I want it to be.Beyond that, I delete very very few active accounts. So if you are chatting/messaging with someone and they become “deleted user” then usually they did it themself. I’d guess at least 9 times out of 10.
Cat fishing? Whats this exactly? It’s too vague a definition. It could easily be classed as flirting, with no intention of meeting. Nobody gets deleted for that.
This site has over 1100 individual accounts active every day, visiting the site, sending messages etc. They are all strangers to you, and to me. So guess what? You will encounter a few liars, fantasists, flirts, etc. Deal with it. You are adults, not children, so use your adult skills of judgement to weed out the unsuitable people. Just like in real life. Does this really need to be said?
There are so many attention seekers and time wasters I don’t know how serious you can take most people on this site. I’ve had it where we are getting on really well and everything seems right then you don’t hear from her again. Just wish there were more serious people on this site
I’ve definitely noticed that some new members join with high enthusiasm and unrealistic expectations. They amass a lot of friends and message a lot but ultimately lose interest and rage quit when people don’t comply with their template.
It’s not you, it’s them.
Even for those that are actual men (not fake profiles, Catifish, etc.) many enter this lifestyle & are overzealous.
In my experience, if you do happen to meet they have misrepresented themselves. Saying one thing however their reality, in real life is much difference.
I would suggest connecting via some form of Video Chat (Zoom, Skype, etc.) as an intermediate form of communication after messaging for a while & before meeting, to confirm their authenticity as well as your interest in them.
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