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@nicholeh Sorry that happened. Be careful and interrupt at the first feelings of discomfort. If it continues, end the session. No one should have to put up with that.
You can add pics to your media file. Make the privacy for “logged in users” then delete later.Tom, others have said WTF better than I. Sounds like ouch, that hurts, you’re sucking too hard are all indications that you need to stop. Be empathetic with your partner.
@tomc8 and other sucklers, suckling should NEVER leave a single mark. Not one. To avoid bruising or leaving marks, it is IMPERATIVE to learn how to properly latch. Research, read, and practice before you actually attempt to suckle. You might try a balloon loosely filled with water as a substitute breast. Suckling is a gentle process, it doesn’t need to be hard suckling. A woman’s breasts are not for experimenting. It appears you need to put more breast into your mouth, the nipple should not be suckled but should hang to the back of your soft palate. Research and learn where that is.
Take a look at Treasure Chest’s recent blog and watch the videos for some additional information.
Adding to the excellent advice in the above two posts, here is a short PSA that should give beginning sucklers a fundamental idea:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DQj-Mn0c370Thanks @bella3.
Pictures posted if anyone is curious to what they look like.
That looks painful. And abusive.
I’m so sorry. Tom is terrible!I saw this thread/photo evidence earlier today and had to log out to control my feelings. I am so so sooooo sorry you were hurt @nicholeh and if you need any healing support, please let me know. Those bruises are insane.
A long time ago, I noticed some medium-dark bruise spots on my breasts after coming home from my boyfriends’ house. I basically looked like a Dalmatian, just not heavy bruising. I backtracked mentally because there had been nothing “rough” during our encounter. He never really played with my breasts much. But, in the shower, I remembered that he grabbed them in a pinching/rolling combo sort of way, not rough but not super comfortable either. I thought it was odd at the time but didn’t think much of it. This was the hand motion that eventually created bruises for the first time on my breasts.I tell this story to illustrate how easy it is to bruise the very delicate, sensitive breast tissue without even meaning to. I’m not sure if it was Tom’s mouth or hands that created those bruises but it is completely unacceptable to leave a mark like that unless explicitly desired and consented to by the breast owner! Was it his hand? His mouth trying to leave a hickey? I dunno.
Some guys think “rough” equates to passion and eagerness. A man really needs to understand levels of compression and pressure with his hands, and suction with his mouth, and titrate those to what is comfortable to his partner. And communicate! Ask her questions! Start out extremely gentle, watch her body cues, listen to her breath, treat her breast like it’s made of the most delicate glass that can break with too much grabbing.
Please be gentle and considerate of your breastfeeding partner!
@nicholeh I’m *so* sorry this happened to you. I also must thank you for sharing. Your experience helps others to realize how important speaking up and communicating really is.
@nicholeh that looks awful, very brave of you to share. I hope you are healing well.
Omg that’s horrible. I’m so sorry. Was he sucking like how one would during sex? That’s just giving an awful boob hickey, not suckling. Ugggh.
If you’re new to this you will get blisters on your nipples until they’re more broken in. Biting is ridiculous. Once I felt like someone was biting me I asked and they said no but I don’t believe them. This is why I really hesitate allowing anyone who doesn’t know what they’re doing/isn’t experienced
I feel that some people are just naturals while others aren’t. It’s not really a skill that takes much practice. It sucks when you can tell it’s not going to be good.
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