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Just wondering if anyone would ask someone out of the blue they know or a stranger who is lactating to have a suckle?
Back story: I would sometimes comment to my ex wife how I’d like it if she was lactating. We worked together but weren’t in a relationship when she had her daughter and was breastfeeding her. She’d go into a private room in the office and pump and I so much wanted to ask her for a suckle! Fast forward a couple years and we’re married and I told her how I wanted to ask and she asked me why I didn’t! She said that she might have let me!
I couldn’t possibly bring myself to ask a co worker friend or any woman lactating to have a suckle (outside of someone in this community), but my ex wife seemed like she would have been open to it. Just wondering other people’s thoughts on this. There’s a young lady in my office building who is single and pregnant and id love to ask her, but I’m not going to!!
From the woman’s standpoint, it would have been flattering as my boobs were turning ME on during the first year of breastfeeding my baby. But would have been a no-go due to the relationship I was in at the time. I think because most naturally lactating women are in a relationship with the baby’s father, it’s probably a common sentiment. But maybe first asking about the relationship status, and then just saying how you might enjoy it would be an appropriate lead in?
Oh, I see you said she’s single. Maybe just a comment rather than a direct question would less put her on the spot. But also, too much nipple stimulation during late pregnancy can cause contractions, so maybe after baby has arrived.
In this day and age,please remember that if this happens at work,you can possibly be turned in for sexually harassing her.
I would tread lightly at this time with those thoughts,and start as a friendship if she is not involved with the baby’s Dad.
Just saying.Personally, I consider work environments completely off limits when it comes to personal desires. These days it’s too fraught with risk.
Not that I haven’t had occasional thoughts about someone, but I just sigh and do my best to push them down. It’s a bit sad that entire sectors of life are off limits, but it’s the world we live in now, and it has to be respected.
Unfortunately, even outside work, asking for this carries some risk too, due to common misconceptions and a lack of broad understanding of what ANR/ABF is all about.
Tread lightly.
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