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I know there is an excitement and playful element to this thing that we love and I don’t want to diminish or belittle that in any way. And I know some women have even been bold enough to word their profiles with this type of jargon. My question is mostly for the women here… Are these terms in any way offensive to you? Is there another way to say the same thing? And would you seek out or reject anyone that used terms like these to woo a prospective partner? Are there other terms that are mildly or fiercely offensive to you? I think this will help all of us here.
I believe that it is so personal to each individual, and you’re not going to get a large enough sample size, to make any responses here, be meaningful.
For women in to breast worship, they may not find those terms objectionable; however, someone interested in a more traditional relationship with ANR, might. But there are probably many exceptions, as well.
Personally, I don’t find “breast play” offensive. I do find “breast friend” offensive, as it feels objectifying. Same with “titty”. But that’s just me. I’m sure others will feel differently.
Although I appreciate the gesture, this strikes me as an exercise in futility. What would be helpful is if people understood the difference between ANR and ABF and used them accordingly. But even so, the “R” often needs clarifying. Or discuss if there needs to be further community consensus on their meanings.
Yes. I stop responding to people who use these phrases and terms as it shows they aren’t interested in a relationship, they are interested in an activity. I am here for a relationship, not a hook up.
Also, “breast play” is a bondage phrase and does not mean what one thinks it does (possibly).
“What would be helpful is if people understood the difference between ANR and ABF and used them accordingly.”
THIS!!! They are not the same.
Thank you for your comments, N and E. I guess I don’t understand the term “breast play” that much anyway. I am guessing it is playing with, licking, flicking with the tongue. pulling gently (or not if preferred), and possibly even gentle biting (if allowed) of the nipple . Am I right? Is there something I missed?
The “wanna have titty fun” is particularly annoying to me, but somewhere in the back of mind even the “breast play” grates at me some. I guess it just feels a little crass and unfeeling. I love being at a dear friend’s breast as much as anyone. But I don’t think I would ever describe what we do as breast play. But I have become more interested in pleasing her in different ways. And the flicking, kissing, handling, and caressing has become more important to me over many years. So, I guess maybe I am into breast play more than I know. I really hate the term though. Feels like I am saying I am a playa’ (not the Spanish playa). And I never want that idea in anyone’s mind about me.
And I heard both your comments about ANR and ABF and thought you covered it well enough for me. I want so desperately to find the right partner to enjoy life with as well as her breasts for our “forever”. And I believe that is what an ANR is. I believe some ABFs can turn into ANRs. And isn’t it a beautiful idea when and ABF couple finds they continually want more and more of each other… more time, more kisses, more knowledge of each other, more joy shared, more anguish shared, and more nursing shared. I hate that there are so many married couples that won’t know what we know, enjoy, and love (because one partner wants nothing to do with it). It is a real shame that so many are forced outside the marriage to have just a taste (pun unintended) of what they desire.
All of you that read this should know that you are so precious and deserve to be happy. And happy life is achievable whether you find an ANR, ABF, or any other alphabet soup out there. I don’t have to have my every dream to come true to be happy. But that doesn’t keep me from chasing them every now and then. Sorry for getting off the topic some. You people are so wonderful.
To Natasha – I agree whole-heartedly that getting to the point of having a true ANRelationship is our goal but I was wondering if having someone that could describe what they like to do while nursing would be better to know before a relationship happened. What I am saying is that I guess it might be better to know what “extras” a partner might have and if they are important to a potential relationship. I will always be annoyed by the term “breast play”. I wish we had a new and different term for it. I’m sure some enjoy having only nursing happening. While others would prefer the added stimulation of other things under the heading of “breast play” in addition to nursing. I wonder if anyone has had an ANR without having ABF before it. It seems to me that very few have an ANR without having an ABF first. Of course I don’t think of ANR without both partners living together.
Just be yourself and seek what YOU want rather than seeking out what you expect women want. Everyone’s different.
Tbf, not everyone is looking for a relationship, and that’s perfectly okay. Some are truly looking for an ANF experience, occasional or one time hook up. That doesn’t make I wrong, it just means that people need to be specific with what they are looking for, read profiles, and approach those who seem to be looking for the same.
For instance, I have no interest in living with a partner, so no, and ANR doesn’t require, nor entail, living with each other, whereas with you, that’s an end goal (of many, I’m sure!) That isn’t wrong. It’s just personal preference. Likewise, I’m here for a relationship first, ANR after. I’m here because the likelihood of having an intimate relationship I will enjoy and that I’m looking for is more likely, nit to find an ABF first, then relationship later. That seems like working backwards to me.
As to the married situation, not everyone cares that someone else is married. What they’d care about is being given the option of deciding if they are willing to be in a relationship with that as a situation. By not telling someone they are married, they have taken the option of deciding away from the other person and that isn’t fair, right or a way to go about getting anything but being called a lair and being blocked. I have no doubt there is someone for everyone here, even those who are stepping out on their marriage (some like the fact that there’s no commitment, there’s no shared responsibility, and that there is the freedom of having a relationship without all the messy bits that a married relationship carries) but would at least like to know that before they have an angry spouse in their inbox asking them just who the he** do they think they are with their spouse. If the person stepping out feels guilty about it, that’s on them to work through, but kindly don’t drag someone else into the messiness of that guilt. Be honest with that person, even if it can’t be done with the partner. Honestly goes a long way.
This is why it is so important to be clear, honest, and open with what you are looking for and what that might entail or include both in your profile and conversation. That helps others make the decision and gives them the information they need to make the best choices for themselves and leads to more success.
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