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Ladies, I have seen many of you looking for a serious LTR ANR relationship with a man who understands what ANR really is. I have placed my personal ad and contacted a few of you that seem to want what I offer, but I have gotten nowhere.
I would have figured that with all those searching for a real relationship, I would have met someone by now.
Is it because I am in a remote location compared to other men? Am I being too honest in what I want? Am I simply ugly? Have sll the women looking for a serious ANR relationship left the site?
I am serious about this and I am lonely as hell, in dire need of ANR and sexual release, and I am losing hope.
Please, ladies, what am I doing wrong?
You really do not have any prospects within what most would consider a reasonable distance. The majority of the women on this site are not interested in long distance. The reality of it is that it’s really not sustainable, and relocating is not as easy as some think it is. If you’re genuinely interested in a long term relationship you need to include info about your personality. A mutual interest in ANR/ABF is not enough to build a relationship on.
No your doing nothing wrong trust me it’s not what has been stated. Your a sweet handsome man and trust me you’ll find her just hold in there. I’ve been looking for awhile and I’m by far from ugly and location hasn’t been the issue. I’m not going to keep going on here so if you need actual genuine advice just PM me
You could write more on your profile that’s true but it doesn’t need to be a novel.
Elizabeth, I will add more to my profile. Thank you for the advice.
Udder Licious, I will PM you later today for advice. Thank you for the offer.
Hi Corey,
I’ll second Elizabeth’s reply. A good ANR is a combination of variables all varying with the unique individuals involved and their expectations and desires in the ANR. Predominantly, Elizabeth’s point of “sustainability” hits home as a primary consideration. Local is extremely important when considering frequency in a nursing situation and sustaining a supply.
We’ve all been searching for some time. Don’t loose heart, you’ll find the right lady.
ToT, thank you for your response. Ever since I discovered how ANR really enhanced my last relationship, I can’t wait to find a permanent ANR core love.
I guess I am being too impatient.
Apparently, a lot of separating the authentic from the warped has to happen AND the person found must be close by or willing to travel or willing to relocate.
Relocation is the most problematic, as the person moving must be able to find a job or be able and willing to work from home. Not to mention moving expenses.
I just happen to be in a state that has very few women looking for ANR. Now they have either found their forever suckler or they have given up on the search because of too many of the warped contacting them.
The men like me are few and fat between and are often forced to wait for long periods of time to find the right person who has perseverance enough to keep looking for us.
It is not only a test of patience, but also luck to find the one person who most closely matches our desires. For both sexes.
After reading your profile and your list of things you find attractive, you may be expecting way too much, especially that your list is 80% sexually based.
I noted from your profile that you are in the middle of a divorce. That can be a red flag for a lot of women who don’t want to deal with the drama of a failed marriage. That doesn’t mean you should lie or take it out because honesty is always the best way to be, and putting that out there is important. Just be aware that there are women who would rather wait till the divorce is finalized to get involved with you, even on a platonic level.
Your list in the “what men find attractive” post comes off as a gripe list of things your exwife wouldn’t do, didn’t like, annoyed you. That’s okay. You don’t have to like your ex. However, before you get into another relationship, it may be in your best interests to work with a trusted therapist to weed out what is just a gripe, what is a need and what is a want. This may help you in finding a healthier place to find a new partner than in the depths of “I’m gonna get what she wouldn’t give me!” Again, it’s okay to have wants and needs, but it may help to have someone help you work through what looks to be like a lot of pain.
I do hope you take this advice as it is meant, kind and thinking of your best interests.
FoxyGoddess, I understand what you are saying.
My profile is the most complete picture of who I am as a person.
My list of turn-offs in the forum post is not, however, based solely on one person. Those are things that have happened from every relationship I have had, most more than once. Looking at it from a different perspective, I seem to be attracted to abusive relationships, which I recognize and am actively trying to avoid with an ANR core relationship.
My last girlfriend and I had a very healthy relationship that got stronger with ANR, but there were things that she did not communicate to me which bothered her despite our strong communication with each other. Those things eventually caused the breakup. It was my first healthy relationship, and its loss caught me unaware. That ended months ago and while I was still in the Navy, so I got counseling before I retired. She and I are still friends, which is also another first for me. I am certain that the counseling I got helped me in that regard.
My divorce is the primary reason for the last five years of therapy. I have actually been in therapy for most of the last fifteen years, and it has helped me greatly. I have been using the lessons learned to alter my perspective and have healthier relationships. My relationship with my last girlfriend is the first successful test of how well I adjusted my perspective and desires to guide me to a better love life.
I have had a woman on this site tell me to contact her again after my finalized divorce, so your observation about that being an obstacle is accurate. Most of the time, however, the loss of a potential ANR is because I am not local to them and they are unwilling or unable to relocate to my area.
Looking at the personal, I can see how it comes across as mostly sexual in my listing of desired relationship parameters. While I am a highly sexual person, I need physical touch to feel connected to my lover. My Love Language is touch. However, I can see how, though I did mention needing to be touched, the sexual component seems to dominate the post. I will think about how to alter my personal to make it more clear I desire physical touch.
Thank you for your perspective. It is what this post was designed to give me: ways to clarify how to express who I am and how to best describe my desired relationship.
One issue you might reconsider. Maybe you should be willing to relocate instead of expectating her to
Unfortunately, Jessa, as with many women, relocation is not an option for me. I have a good job and live in a town that truly feels like home, and that feeling has been elusive since I was eleven years old.
I have been all over the world, and lived in several states, and this is the only place I feel like I want to die at.
I have learned, from the responses to this post, that I will have to be a lot more patient and accept the possibility of not ever finding the woman who best matches me and wants the same things in a relationship as I do.
I am not giving up yet, though.
I also realize Montana is not a state many women enjoy if they were not raised here or at least visited often as a child.
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