Advice on first meets

[Sarah]

I’m new and excited to meet people (men and women). What’s the done thing for first meets? Is suckling or sex expected?

[Ste]

First meet for me must be a social, it really helps break the ice and also is an indication of whether you’re going to get on.
ABF is such a close act I find it’s much more relaxing knowing the person beforehand.
Sex or no sex is up to you. Everyone is different, there is no right or wrong answer, but if no sex make sure your partner respects the no sex rule.
ABF can be enjoyable just as much without sex.
Have fun and be safe

[btrfly]

Hi. Welcome. Nothing should be “expected” including sharing breast pictures, nursing or sex.

Anr/abf should move at a slower pace in meeting your person. This isn’t a race so please Take your time in getting to know ppl. As most, sadly disguise their desire for anr under the false pretenses of it leading to sex.

First meet musts…

Meet in public, do not agree to meet at homes or hotels.

Get a picture of their face (not a phone in front of their face) pic

Voice call /video if you like/prefer

Always have a safe call in place.

Have fun. Trust your gut. Listen to that little voice. 😊

enjoy your

[r256]

Here’s a few previous discussions that may be useful…

Safely meeting up

Meeting… How Soon?

[emcee]

two things i would suggest:

1) i would definitely recommend a video chat or two beforehand. you can do it as ‘friends’ on this site if you don’t want to share numbers or socials. have a virtual coffee in the privacy and safety of your home and get to know each other a little bit.

2) get your expectations (read: limits) out in the open BEFORE you meet and make sure you agree on everything.

it might sound like it could take away from the magic or spontaneity, but by knowing what’s in play and out, it actually makes the moment you finally meet so much more relaxed and enjoyable.

best of luck – be safe – and have fun! 🙂

[Sarah]

Thank you all so much. All sounds like spot on advice and I will most definitely be doing all the things you have suggested to me

[Meerski]

I’d say lay out all the cards on the table. I don’t particularly like having it be at my house so I typically will get a hotel nearby. If they rather do it at their house or in the car I’m also down for that. I’m Demisexual so I typically will tell someone that’s interested in linking up that I’m not looking for sex or relationship if it leads to that naturally I won’t fight against it but I don’t expect it and so far those I linked with also said the same.

I think it’s important if it’s just a suckling session or if you want a relationship out of this. If it’s a relationship I think both people should be on board with that. Because some people don’t want that. I wouldn’t link with someone that wants a LTR out of this because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings because ABF is such a intimate bonding experience, some people for sure can develop feelings from this.

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