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The obsession? It starts by being breast focused I think. I have always been very breast focused, It’s very natural for me. One day, there’s an encounter with a woman that has breast milk. (it’s rare, but happens) and it’s really nice! Maybe you’re talking to someone on a club and thing heat up a bit. Then she pulls out her breast and sprays you in the face (I saw it happen). Then the guy starts thinking about how he would really like to have more breast milk… but how? How do you find a single mother that just had a baby and is looking to date and is open to breast feeding an adult? Is that really a question you can ask on a first date? Also, most guys don’t want to get their girl friends pregnant, just to have milk (even if they do, will the woman be into it?) So now the search begins for that special person that can fill this desire. After searching and finding that all potential partners are over 100 miles away, or finding a woman that loves the idea until they ghost him for a better partner, the desire starts to become an obsession (simply because its rare and difficult). Now they’re in trouble. Every conversation takes on an edge, which just makes things worse. Every potential ANR date becomes a mad, off-putting sprint to the finish line. It’s like high school for nerds all over again. People are objectified and expectations rage out of control. It’s ironic, regarding a relationship that’s focused on breasts. He’s also surrounded by potential partners (perhaps in other states) and happy couples. However, no one seems available for him. The only way out is to slow down a bit. Realize that women have needs too (and never ending love and dedication may not be it right now.) No one’s getting anywhere with anyone unless the woman is comfortable, happily engaging with you and a little pampered. From there, he has to start putting some serious time into getting to know people. To put that all into perspective: I find a potential partner about once a year, but that does not impact my ongoing efforts to socialize and learn.
Refreshing honesty. Relationships are a lot of work no matter what kind they are. :o) Look at the site as being about networking, and about playing the long game.
Lessons from my first few years.
So frustrating…
If this were a pre-covid world, I would suggest regional meetings be hosted annually. We could plan to get together for a convention, the theme of which could be wellness, community, touch-based comfort therapy.. We could have lactation consultants come. We could have group sessions discussing latching and positioning with an adult partner, diet and wellness, just plain informational seminars… Your ribbon indicates your relationship status, so couples come as well… We could get a bulk discount on breast pumps!!!!
Well, that’s a pie in the sky, but you get the picture.I’ll write a proposal.
The bar serves breast milk!
Maybe it’s the Halloween sugar high…but right now I think I’m a genius…
Yes, totally a great idea! There were a few other annual meetings that used to happen. I think one in NYC and one in Las Vegas. They were listed on fetlife.com. fetlife is all about fetishes, and has a “big” ANR ABF community. If you want to organize it. I’m sure you would find a lot of support.
It feels like obsession when we are alone. Getting together here is a wonderful step. Acknowledging your behavior is not getting you the results you want is huge. I should start plans for 2023, I mean, the nursing bra shopping experience alone will be amazing…
You have triggered my obsession. Party planning. I don’t do it for work, because I put a piece of my heart on the line to bring people together to have a great time with wonderful memories.Hire a photographer so people can all be in the photos…
Openly nursing!!! Judgement free zone, singles mixer hour! Making sure there are girls there- heck, new moms will come in droves for comfortable nursing bras…Sounds amazing. I like this kind of obsession. Its very creative and everyone will love it.
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