Hi Mark O, I would suggest :
– Make yourself as visible as possible on here by engaging with as many aspects of the site as you can. Chatrooms, general discussion forum, polls, puzzles, etc.
– Some users like the “community” aspect of ABFheaven. Some simply drop in, check their messages, and leave. Both approaches are fine.
– Unsolicited private message are perfectly ok, providing you read the profile of the person, especially their About Me section, and respect any conditions they specify ( eg. Local only, no men, etc ) . Other than that, it’s ok.
– Friends requests, same as above, and always include a brief note with the request.
– Bear in mind that successfully finding a partner here often involves a bit of luck. Being in the right place at the right time etc. So good luck!