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I am curious about hearing from women who are actively searching so that everyone can have a better idea of connecting with each other.
I feel that I have done everything possible to find someone to connect with that will lead to something real. Getting to know each other as people, showing genuine interest, making real plans, and expressing myself honesty.
I’d like to hear from women who are actively searching on this site or any other site for a relationship revolved around breastfeeding in any degree of level – from just verbally discussing it all the way to making it a deep centralizing piece of the dynamic. How are you searching for your partner?
Do you express yourself through your profile and wait for people to reach out to you? If so, what do you look for besides people who have read your profile in detail and have expressed interest in you, and asked genuine questions to develop a relationship? Also, considering they have offered to share pictures of themselves with you and having done so? What are further chemistry you are looking for?
Are there other ways that you are actively looking? Do you look through the “men looking for women” personal ads and find an attractive man? And if you do find someone who pertains to your criterias, do you reach out to them or do you hope that they message you first?
How often do you use the “search members” tool to search for men? I search every day and I was wondering if women did the same. I reach out to profiles that I find interesting and reach out to offer a genuine connection starting with a picture of myself if they’d like without asserting myself of course.
I hope to hear all about your searching experiences! I’m open for messaging too if that’s more comfortable.
There is no one size fits all. If you are really doing what you say you are, simply keep trying, and perhaps act as an editor for yourself and try slightly different ideas. And be patient.
Thanks for your response. I definitely live by the saying of patience being a virtue! I have been reaching out genuinely with an open heart and treating each person as a unique human being. The journey is long and winding, but most of the time I don’t get any response or rejected or ghosted, so it just feels very disappointing.
I know that it’s NO ONE’s obligation to respond, but it just feels like I need to fit the image of someone most times, actually for most of my life. But I appreciate your suggestion of being an editor because I do that a lot. I found that editing myself to be the best version of myself gives me more clarity on what I want and at the same time it kind of gives other people to have a deeper understanding of me to connect with me more intentionally. I can only change so much about myself, let alone my physical appearance, before my entire identity is changed in itself, if that makes sense.
It’s also why I would like to hear some perspective from the other side too on what are the main ways they approach their search on this site or any other site for a relationship revolved around breastfeeding in any degree of level – from just verbally discussing it all the way to making it a deep centralizing piece of the dynamic, in their own personal anecdotes, since there is no one size fits all.
I’m really curious to hear about more. Thank you very much for setting the tone.
I read your post, profile and link to another post.
I read a reply from a lady who said she was interested until you refered to your preference. I have to agree with her, my advice is to omit it. It’s up to you but when the ratios are so heavily skewed against you already you alienate before you’ve even begun.
Aside from that you seem like a lovely guy and I’m sorry you’ve not found happiness on the site.
As for me I did reach out to some men using the location filter but that’s because what I wanted had a time limit to it. But posting usually leads to men messaging. I appreciate a photo first to get that criteria out of the way. Then if I’m physically interested I’ll chat and I can sense quite soon if I like there vibe and if there is potential
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