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Someone asked me to supply them a picture, obviously didn’t like it, then blocked me without a no thank you or anything. They couldn’t even provide their own picture. This particular person isn’t worth bothering with as they lack basic manners.
Internet connections are definitely challenging no matter what dating site one is on.
Is asking for a quick voice chat/voice message an alternative “first step” to getting to know someone, rather than picture swapping? This site makes it pretty easy to use those functions now. Maybe a slightly safer way of proceeding? If someone doesn’t want to talk to you, you’re probably better off not risking sending them a picture immediately. Remember, you are sending pics of yourself to, basically, a stranger. Use voice first, it’s a safer route. Just my opinion.
Sorry Tim that it happened to you, the same thing happened to me too. However, the way I look at it, even though it was rude and hurts, it may be best overall since you know for certain that they are not interested immediately instead of down the line and can move on to a prospect with more long term potential and not have wasted your time with this person.
I apologize for the girls. Including me, I have not responded after receiving a picture and not feeling a connection. Many times I do inform them but I admit I have just ‘left it’ and I apologize. I will work harder on explaining myself. I know from personal experiences that it does hurt.
Yeah, I’ve been there several times. I fully understand women not responding to every message they receive. I feel no entitlement and assume no obligation from that initial contact. But once we’ve been chatting, exchanging emails, sharing deeply– and they ask for a picture– it’s damned hurtful and rude to just ghost once you get the picture. You don’t like my looks? OK, I understand that. I’m used to it. It’s been happening to me for 30+ years. But have the decency to say so. My ego can take it. I’m not going to argue with you or beg you to change your mind. I’m going to say, “OK, thanks. I wish you well in your search,” and move on.
But David, you’re in the minority. The majority of men (speaking from personal experience only) won’t take no for an answer, particularly the really young ones.
As a man I have done this sometimes…
Not when I get sent a pic, but when someone asks me what body type I am into rather than just sending me a picture or actually telling me what they look like.
This is always a loaded question because if I describe something that isnt them I almost always get called shallow and unrealistic.
I think 99% of us on here will have had that experience where the physical appearance of someone hasn’t been to our taste. It’s another peril of meeting people online.
I’ve had it where I have been chatting, sent a pic and the chat has withered because I am not that person’s cup of tea (or should that be milk?).
I’ve also been the other party who hasn’t found the person I am chatting to physically attractive (much as I will stress that I always value a mental connection over just looks, there has to be some kind of attraction there).
I wouldn’t just end the chat, I will usually say the person isn’t quite what I am looking for. It sucks, but it happens!
There was a woman who wanted anyone who wished to talk to her to send a picture of your penis and explain why you want to nurse from her or your not guaranteed a reply, i stupidly send a photo of myself and a cute reason why I would like to and guess what? No response.
Internet connections are soo hard to build as we have access block buttons, posing as catfishes, with more options of men/women to choose from and filtering the ones you don’t want to engage with and on top we don’t know the reasons why said members are here, some may want their ego stroked and want attention with no intention to meet, some genuinely want to make a good connection, and some may want some casual intimacy and it’s best for everyone to not waste anyones time and be forward and honest no matter how much it hurts.
Sorry Tim, that seems to be somewhat normal on all sites. Happens to all of us one time or another. The way to look at it is, on to something better, that person was not worth it.
I am not sure I have a solution to this. I personally think the internet has made it difficult to know what to do first and in what order. I think Michael’s idea about voice feature is really a good one. I think that might help getting over the exhaustion of texting and asking the same questions or answering the same questions several times to different people.
What makes it really difficult for me are the very succinct user profiles where you basically have to ask many many questions to know what the other person is looking for. This is just so that you feel that you know the other person.
However all of the above still does not answer the question of physical, mental, spiritual and emotional compatibility for a possible match. In the past, with face to face interactions, the physical check would have taken a few minutes to determine whereas here you cannot do that unless you have a face picture. But requesting a picture seems intimate but necessary. Not saying anything positive after is difficult because you can easily imagine how that person would feel if you were in their place. These are just thoughts, I don’t have an answer.
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