NASA, Dating, ANR/ABF

Context:
I started this message to someone else. As I typed it grew legs, and was no longer applicable to the original recipient. That’s what propted this post. To be CRYSTAL CLEAR THIS IS NO REFERENCE TO ANYONE, JUST MY THOUGHTS. Here goes.

This means of trying to find “THE SOMEONE” is ridiculous! Point blank! I remember when you met organically in person. Thru friends, family, etc. I’m not a fan of this “new normal” I want to see and discover my relationships organically in person/in the flesh!
Reality, probably not going to happen! And frankly it didn’t pan out so well for me in the past, so here I am. Platforms are designed as aids but are only as good as we the users. System isn’t broke, we must evolve. I expect too soon we’ll be complaining that our new mate turned out to be AI….I digress. That said, I am so grateful for this online platform.

I think of online dating/ relationship sites this way; Its a game of “GO!/NO GO!” I imagine a room of 30 or so (think NASA) sitting around clicking the levers, shouting out “GO!” “GO!” “GO!” “NO GO!” BOOM!! Cut the burners…..back to the situation room, reevaluate! What went wrong? Who screwed up the calulatuons?

Indulge me if you choose:
You message on this site safely, which IS a blessing. “GO!”
Perhaps photos are exchanged. “GO!”
We talk physically on the phone (a real human) “GO!”
“ENGINES, IGNITE!”
Now there are logistics to iron out. (We agree on and actually book/plan a mutual time and place) “GO!”
Timing? “GO!”
Both actually show up for meeting. “GO!”
They finally meet, AND, there IS a physical attraction by BOTH! “GO!”
“GENTLEMAN, WE HAVE LIFT OFF!!!!”
We are soaring through the atmosphere.
Now comes scary parts:
Landing:
Meeting occurs…..BLAH! They cannot carry on a conversation….AT ALL!!! He keeps checking his watch, pisssed he wasted his well invested time on this rude woman who just continues playing with her cellphone…..
texting and barely interacting. She thinks he’s too stuffy because he put a one hour time limit on their meet and greet AND he has the audacity to keep checking his watch! Therefore she decided to ignore him.
“CRASH! AND BURN!” “Ladies and Gentlemen we have a disaster of epic proportion!”
“What you ask?”
In the situation room all was discussed.
“EXCEPT FEELINGS AND COMMUNICATION/MISCOMMUNICATION!” “Who was in charge of communicatio/miscommunication?” “Ooops that wasn’t in the manual!”

“We talk about jobs, availability, goals for anr/abf, logistics, timing, dry vs lactating, kids crazy exs, jumping out of perfectly good aircraft and why I personally think thats nuts! (Sorry, that last reference was actually me….but I AM the writer!)
I pause……its not easy!
There are the well meaning people who say “its a numbers game.” At the end of the day all of the above is true. (I think. God knows I am no expert. If I was I’d being living the dream.)
Forgot a couple more “GO!/NO GO”
Unmet expectations/
fetishes/promises.
Meeting families and friends that aren’t supportive.
Exs sabotaging. Health issues, lies…..on and on. This IS hard work. But in the end, if it all “GOES” as planned. I myself in my optimism believe eventually we will ALL get it correct and find that amazing human who is exactly who we are supposed to meet!

I welcome any feedback here or on DM.