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Ugh so many messages and mostly all asking about my boobs. Like they’ll start out interested about my hobbies but it quickly turns into a conversation about whether I produce milk, if I want to meet up (no ABCD I do not want to spend my money to travel all the way to Scotland for a one time suckle session. I am of course making up a name because I don’t want an attack on all the guys with the same name). And then even the ones localish to my area just want to rush everything. One. I’m not on here to find anybody. Two. I’m not going to drop my plans to meet you for coffee and a very lacklustre conversation. I’ve done that once before (via another website don’t worry) and learnt my lesson, if the conversation isn’t there online then it’s not going to suddenly appear in real life
Honestly if it wasn’t for the café and the women in the cafe chats I would have deleted.That sucks, having guys rushing. And yes it can be hard to find someone local with whom you connect properly. I have the same issue, well finding someone sort of local to start with is a challenge in itself. Which other site have you use before if i may ask
But that’s the thing. I’m not looking for anybody, I joined because I like the social aspect of it. To be able to occasionally tell a joke and people actually understand. Or to be able to say oh I crave nursing somebody and people not assume I mean nursing as in taking care of somebody
Hi!
This is said with gentle understanding, please DO NOT take it with any intent for malice or deceit.I read your profile. There is much of what you have said in your treatise about men, but one has to totally read between the lines to see what you mean. As a Neanderthal, I wish to gently say if you put all of the topics above that you object to, and cover them gently and clearly under what you don’t want, and do want, us Neanderthals will finally get the message. I hope 🙏🏼 😌 this is constructive and helpful.
Sincerely,
JohnAhhhh thank you John I didn’t see it at all as malicious.
I actually don’t mind people asking me questions but I will prioritise those that talk about topics other than boobs. The guy then message me all upset because I read their message but didn’t reply and then will continue to message in order to get my attention because I’m online. I will eventually talk to those asking about my boobs when I’m in to talk about it but you’re right I should state this in my about me. I’ll draft up a clear (hopefully clear) about me once I get a chance as the most recent one was done out of frustrationAye Calypso!
You said, in your profile:
“Hello. I enjoy being creative whether it be crochet, knitting (really badly) or origami I love creating items as gifts, mini projects or just because.
Although I’m on Abf Heaven I do enjoy talking about topics other than boobs. Not everything has to be boobcentric- honestly the fastest way to lose my interest
Aha thank you for reading.”
If you take the objections in your bit of a rant, and craft them into clear ideas of “I want” and “don’t want”:
I joined for the social aspects, and I’m not really looking for anybody.
Don’t come at me with questions about my boobs or a request for pictures, or I will block you.
What I want in an ANR is:
1. …..
2. …..
3. …..You should be:
1. Between X and Y years old…
2. Think of any contact relationship as…
3. …..I present this as an outline, hopefully to bring you success in all your interactions. This ends my public service announcement. Thank you.
John out.P. S.
When a Neaderthal presses a point, that is not to your liking… simply redirect him or her to re-read your profile.Please remember that no reply to a message convinces most Neanderthals that they are not being heard, above the din of other Neanderthal suitors, and begs them to yell harder. A negative, but not scathing, reply to all unsuitable and now extinct Homo Neanderthalensis 😳 might sting a bit, as rejection is the toughest mistress, but will likely send them on their predatory way, as we Neanderthals are quick to lose interest and continue to wander, somewhat aimlessly, about the landscape.
Best,
JohnHi Calypso, it looks like you have joined recently so welcome to the site. You have every right to be here for whatever reasons suit you and please don’t feel that you need to justify your choices to anyone.
Obviously, guys should behave – but… unfortunately, some guys come across as aggressive, forward or even desperate and therefore self-filtering is necessary. As AZmale said above, having a blunt and succinct description on your profile does help to an extent, but this will only filter out those members who firstly read profiles and secondly accept the content (which is not everyone, sadly).
Most guys don’t realise how many messages the ladies receive. You are not compelled to answer every message, it is up to you to decide what to do.
If you have sent a simple “no thanks” message that doesn’t work for an annoyingly persistent user, then you can use the Block feature. If you receive messages that are abusive please also report them to Michael. There is a forum about this in the General section.
The intention of this site is to provide a safe and respectful environment for all users. There is a supportive community here so please ignore the dross, stick to your guns and most of all have fun along the way.
I hear you, but it’s also difficult to see how capable someone is through text every single time
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