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Very new to ABF, experimented very briefly- just long enough to know that it was for me. As I’m learning more and connecting with others, I can’t help but think about the “first time”. What should I expect when that moment comes?
Make sure you feel comfortable and safe with the person. Just relax and enjoy. Sometimes it’s very overwhelming emotionally. Good luck.
Expect is a VERY broad term.
Omgoodness where to begin. Lol 25 year experience here.
Definitely don’t jump into anything with anyone anytime soon. Take your time to get to know soneone.Because you are new , there will be a few out there trying to manipulate the situation.
Trust your instincts.
Discuss everything upfront. Boundaries, safety, and your expectations. Their’s only matter if you agree or disagree. Open communication is paramount.
Sex isn’t required.
Have fun. This shouldn’t be stressful.LOL
I wish you the best of luck..
My DMs are always open if you like to TALK.
Expectations vary based on time, frequency and many other factors, the main part is about being comfortable, safe, and pleasurable. the next would depend on communication with your partner
When you meet somebody for the first time, take time to feel comfortable around this person. Agree beforehand on the possibility of not starting abf the first meet up
The first meeting should be low key and in a public place. Online personas can vastly differ from someone’s true personality. If possible have the first session in a hotel room. That way if it goes sideways or you don’t feel comfortable then you can make a quick exit. Your comfort is key. Set clear boundaries and stick to them. Actual abf should be enjoyable. If the other person knows what they are doing.
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