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How do you talk about ANR/ABF with a potential partner who’s never heard of it before?
I’m curious how people approach conversations about something personal or not widely known when they’re starting to get close to someone new.
What helps you decide when to share it, and how do you keep the talk open and comfortable instead of awkward?
Yikes- Directly. Not long into the relationship for honesty and transparency. Have you considered exactly what you desire? ABF? ANR? How often? what if one what’s to nurse more or less than the other? The goal to lactate? Do you know how to latch or have a good latch already? How do you handle sucekling on vacation? with relatives? A long sports day? I’d be thinking or those things and a whole lot more before you just blurt out “I want to nurse your tits”
Yeah, that actually makes sense—being clear about what you want probably makes the conversation a lot smoother. I guess my main worry is more about how to even define it to someone who’s never heard of ANR/ABF before. Like, how do you bring it up without it sounding super confusing or intense right away?
Take it slowly Buster, one small step at a time and be patient. I hope it goes well for you.
I can’t speak for having brought up the topic to someone else. However, I would approach it much in the same way that I came to realize I was attracted to ABF.
My initial thoughts would have been those towards regarding the act as strange and or abnormal. But, reading articles and blogs(many of which on this site) I learned about the historical aspects even biblical references and how it was very common until more recent history.
Timewise, it actually happened pretty quickly. But information wise, I’d say slowly my mind was opened to the idea. As I learned more I became more and more attracted to what ABF has to offer.So, I’d say take things “slowly.” Explain the benefits, appeal, and explore it at depth.
I agree with the previous posters, be upfront and take it slow. I usually wait a bit after a few dates to establish trust, rapport, and common ground. Then when the sex conversation comes up I ask the following question “Do you like your breasts to get daily attention? They are my favorite part.” This is sufficient to test the waters and go from there. If you get the cringe/uneasy response then great, dodged a bullet. If they like the idea or did it before then I move to examples (usually on a different conversation). The goal is to not be cringe yourself while expressing your preferences.
Being with a partner long term id probably bring up the subject the morning after the night before buster if you know what I mean, talk about it, ask questions, did you like it, was it too long attention etc, that way you may find out a whole lot more quicker. Difficult subject I know.
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