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Ladies…I am seeking your thoughts, feelings and honest opinion on this questionable topic.
Let’s say you found someone you feel you can confidently say you trust to meet for nursing. You vetted him out. He passed all your inquisitive questions, felt confident on any concerns you may have had and now you agreed to meet. Because, it felt right. You’ve spoken every day..either message, text or phone. He was always reaching out to you and you are happy he does. You Even smile at the thought of readibg their message.
The date is set.
You nurse.
The nursing was wonderful as you anticipated.
Everyone leaves bragging about what just happened.
A week goes by and radio silence.
2 weeks go by. The silence is louder.
What do you do? How do you feel? Where is your mind at this point?
Would you of reached out? Should you?
At this point. Is it ghosted? 👎
That is just rotten. Why are guys like that?
I’d just let it go, but he’ll get the milk thirst and be back in your DM’s with some BS about how life got busy 🙄Unfortunately, people are disposable. It happens all the time even on dating apps.
I’m sorry to hear that btrfly. Yes, it hurts, wether you’re a woman or a man, when you’ve left down your protective barriers and another person has betrayed your trust. In this instance, I honestly don’t understand it. The only thing you can really do,if you really think he’s ghosted,to attempt an explanation in order to try to close the unsolved equation, is to just to message and ask, ‘How are you, why haven’t you messaged?’ It’s even money if you’ll get a response, more uncertain if you’ll get the truth, but you can sometimes read between the lines, as it were.
It does seem a little impolite not to have contacted you, but there are a variety of possible reasons why he hasn’t.
It sounds like you went through enough of the pre-meet process to have established needs and expectations on both sides beforehand. If you feel like you had good understanding of each other on the day and you would like to continue meeting him, then I would say it is worth messaging him to resolve the unknowns. Hopefully that would give you an answer one way or the other.It seems like he’s said everything he needed to say to get what he wants.
He’s probably thinking he can do better.He’s pretty toxic.
Pathetic behaviour actually, I’m assuming he’s got no self respect.It’s definitely his loss..
I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s very very hard to find a “man” these days. Hate to generalize but all I see here is old kids trying to get hard with your boobs and free sex talk while putting zero effort into building a good connection. Most are not even respectful enough to say “good morning”.
We are all adults here, we can take honesty. I have been forced to close “potential” partners for this exact reason. ANR can be so beautiful and yet it can be very shallow for some… sad.
Not saying you did anything wrong, you didn’t…. Maybe establishing new communication rules that allow feedback after each encounter may help? Just an idea we can all adopt to help ease the initiation process.
Sending love 💖
Hi,
If he doesnt contact you, he is not interested. Chances you’ll get an honest answer if you message and ask why no contact are very small.
So I would move on and not wait for him to message again when he is thirsty.
If this contact isnt making you happy, I would not continue seeking contact.Unfortunately this type of behavior is prevalent. Rather than building a relationship, have found that people are more interested in transactional interactions for their immediate satisfaction. Sorry this happened to you, it shouldn’t happen to anyone. Hope you find what you seek.
I’m so sorry! I honestly believe it’s becoming harder and harder to find a genuine connection that is long lasting. I do believe that people want more of the carefree transaction to satisfy an urge.
For a women that have had a true beautiful connection with somebody that has lasted years and is difficult to deal with these frivolous situations! True connection is honestly rare.
As women we are often open and transparent and offering our breast is so vulnerable. It’s a shame the receiving person doesn’t also see the true intimacy.
Id wish these type of men would be honest with their intentions. I do believe some women do want quick sessions… not all of us!
Hugs 💛
Ah yes. The silence after all the message bombing right up to the last message to say he’s arrived.
It goes well. Great fun. Lots of laughs.
Then crickets.
I got jaded and lost interest in making new connections.
Ghosting does go both ways though. But men that get what they wanted are the worst.
I am so sorry this happened to you. It seems no amount of vetting will weed out the determined. I wish people would put this much energy into making things work instead of ghosting but we live in a dopamine hit society with a lot of options. It’s really a luck of the draw to find someone who is upfront with intentions. I would love to hear how you plan on adjusting your vetting process going forward.
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