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I’ll try to keep this short, but I want to include as much context as possible.
Would you not consider someone, or end an explorative relationship because of lack of experience?
I’m ultimately seeking a LTR, I have not been in a relationship for some time, and when lactation was involved, it was much more just a playful thing, than intentional nursing. Though I’m sure I would figure it out, I doubt if I would be a perfect “latch”. As I’m seeking an LTR, an impromptu suckle session wouldn’t necessarily be my style, but I also see it as a way to bond and possibly begin a relationship. I have considered the possibility of meeting someone solely for the sake of gaining experience, if that person were only seeking a suckler, and not a LTR, but again, not really my style.
If you’re LTR oriented, would you prioritize the experience or the conversation? Is nursing a way you would build a relationship, or only open up to once the relationship had a good foundation?
Hi Jacob,
What a beautiful question.
I can only speak for myself. I think we all start somewhere. No, I would not end a realtionship or not consider someone because of lack of experience.
Most important to me is creating a connection. If it isnt there, its a no go for me, experienced or not. Especially in a LTR !!
Experience isnt something a man should have ( and not the woman). If theres no experience, you can discover things together. Every relationship is different, so there will be time needed to see what works. So i would not worry about experienxe and just go for it.Hi Jacob.
Connection, chemistry and compatibility are, for me, way more important for an ANR than my partner’s experience. Most men who are motivated can pick up the latch pretty quickly, develop the muscles needed for nursing, and educate themselves (or let their lady educate them) about the fundamentals of nursing/lactation etc. I have not had good luck with beginning a relationship with nursing, but instead let that aspect of the relationship develop over time as intimacy and comfort and communication grows. Wishing you lots of luck in finding a beautiful relationship.Experience. Not an issue. I find it easy to train and mold a person to the way I want them to nurse. Which is nice when they get it..right. lol.
Plus, I am not nursing anyone whom I don’t feel a connection too..so it’s a beautiful thing to watch and enjoy when they latchbon so perfectly the next time.
Thank you all for your inputs. I’ve seen some profiles that say they prefer someone with experience, and it made me wonder what the overall consensus was. I know my way around a bosom, but the latch is something I want to get right. Sounds like I’ll have no problem if I just follow her cues.
The best nursing partner that I ever had, has never wet nursed before, only dry nursed. He studied how to properly suckle very diligently before hand though and it was a pretty amazing experience nursing him.
Experience can sometimes be an issue, because some guys think they know it all and won’t actually listen to anything that would make it comfortable for the person they’re suckling because they “have experience and know best” /
@john123456 following your partner’s cues is the magic elixir.
Yes, for me it does. I gave an unexperienced lover a chance in the past but all he did was chew on me. My first true ANR connection was with someone who knew what he was doing and I was in heaven.
I am very new to this and have mostly been experimenting solo at this point. For me conversation, connections and learning together would be more important than getting it just right. I’m not even sure what a good latch is at this point but it seems something people can figure out
I know you are looking for answers from ladies but figured I would throw in some of my thoughts as I have been thinking about this for a while.
I always thought of ANR/ABF as something that two people learn together and get a feel for. That it would be more forgiving towards guys who lack experience in this. ABF is such a “soft” and cuddly fetish that you would think a lady would find it cute and “awwwe-inducing” to guide a guy and into suckling with soft words and gentle encouragement. But no, it’s just like every other fetish/kink/sexual lifestyle. Experience matters. That seems to be the standard.
I see a lot of women mention in their bio wanting someone experienced. It often feels like there is little room for entry when you are a guy. Ladies want to have fun and I think teaching or guiding just isn’t fun. There is also too many guys in line. A lady can just say “next!,” and get someone who is ready to go lol. The easiest thing would be to get into a relationship and slowly introduce someone into ABF.For me, I have 5 years experience, surely ladies you want someone who knows how to suckle correctly, has the correct latch. Won’t hurt your nipples, rather than someone without experience. Put it this way would you rather have a plumber around to fix a leak or bodge it yourself.
Thanks Jacob.
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