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I’ve corresponded with a number of ABF-minded women, and one such person advised me that many ladies seek a partner to enjoy breastfeeding without any sexual relationship. Yet, by contrast, it seems that many men are interested in breastfeeding as a sexual fantasy, or as foreplay for sex.
I myself don’t desire anything sexual from a suckling relationship – to me, it’s only about breastfeeding, for the deep connection and mutual pleasure. Is it true that some, if not many, women are seeking the same thing?
Rob – I agree with your point of view and do see the value in this experience. I believe there is a unique connection, intimacy and benefit to it that doesn’t require lactation or sex.
While not everyone is satisfied with this, I do believe there are some who are quite satisfied with the connection that it offers.
Jenni
Hi Jenni.
That’s exactly what my correspondent advised. I’ve dry suckled once, and the connection was perfectly satisfying on its own. The gift of breast milk would no doubt have enhanced the pleasure, but the intimacy, bond and out-of-worldly sensation are all I desire. My friend even claimed that I was ‘quite rare’ for not seeking anything sexual from the experience, That’s why I put this question forward to the ladies here, to see if others feel the same.
I hope you’ll soon find what you’re looking for.
I agree with you Rob. I’m one of the guys that actually desires non-sexual suckling sessions. The act of it itself is more than enough. Hopefully will find a lady on here who feels the same about this.
Very true. It is frustrating meeting someone to nurse and then they try to have sex. Even after you have already explain that it is non sexual. It is refreshing to meet someone who understands that.
Wish every man was like that, it seems most men are looking more for sex than anr.
I was with one partner and we both agreed that the focus was suckling not sex. I have no desire to lactate. From the navel up is fair game, navel down off limits. Unfortunately for me, he became involved with a woman and chose to end our arrangement. I wish him well, and hope it works out for him.
I feel the same as you, Sonya – the focus is purely on the breasts, nothing below the navel. It’s a pity that many men seem to enjoy breasts as just a ‘turn-on’ for sex. Maybe it’s because they almost never see a woman’s bare breasts except during sex, so they tend to associate the two together.
I sometimes wonder why no one has any objection to men like me walking around topless once in a while, yet a woman doing so almost always attracts unfair backlash. Topless women are perfectly normal in other parts of the world – maybe it should be the same here too.
My mindset is not exactly of my own per say and it’s not that I’ve never tried to change it. I’m in a 50% belief that having breasted children, I simply never enjoyed breast play after children. The other is that my mind automatically turns off the sexual aspects of stimulation during a nursing session, this can go on for hours. After nursing has ended for a few seconds my body wakes up and I am wanting sex. This is my experience with the husband I left 2.5 years ago, we had nursing for a few months before I left him. So that’s why I’m only seeking to have anr an actual serious relationship. I’ve received a lot of backlash because I don’t or simply can’t force myself to be sexual during. This stems to having anxiety of wasted milk squirting and such. I can’t change who am, as much as the other person doesn’t want to be changed. I don’t understand this forceful behavior people have thought is now normal. If they’re looking to get off, ANR is not about sex at all, try abf or something.
Your mindset is perfectly normal and natural, Stephanie. Nursing by design is purely about nurturing and bonding with a loved one, (be it a child or adult) – it isn’t meant to be sexually stimulating. Some men are simply not used to seeing bare breasts at all, so being in the presence of a half-naked nursing woman may be a ‘turn-on’ for them. I agree that such a view should be changed – breastfeeding is about something much more than sex, and those who think otherwise need to look elsewhere. I myself have no desire for anything sexual as part of a nursing relationship. In fact, I might even consider nursing as an alternative to sex – a true connection in a way mother nature intended.
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