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Has anyone experienced this before? A woman getting an intense urge to nurse her partner even though she is completely dry?
It happens to me a lot now. Mg hubby nurses on me several times a day and I would sometimes get this intense urge to give him my breast even though I’m totally dry!I believe many of us have tge same feeling! It’s like a huge necessity…
I guess that’s why we are here…😏I think that would be a perfectly expected response from either side of the dynamic.
While lactation may or may not be a physical response to breast feeding, the feelings of nurture, connection, sensuality, caring and the endorphins would still exist regardless of if you produce or not.
Perhaps it is those that your body and mind are craving rather than the relief of lactation?
@mischiefplz you are right. It’s not about the relief of lactation. It’s the need for the emotional connection!
@alondramay46 yes absolutely. It is a huge necessity but poor guy is at work now and I need him 🙈
Yeah, I’ve had that before. You could massage or use a pump. It’s not the same of course, but it may ease the feeling a bit.
Yes, this is perfectly normal.
I never had milk but my late husband would nurse/suckle up to 8 times a day. He would latch on overnight when I was asleep ad I would even dream feed him (albeit without milk) in his sleep.
The urge comes from the desire for the closeess and to renew the bond. I felt it at least twice a day but I always let him nurse on-demand and so it was for him to latch on as he wanted/needed to.
My in-laws have been in an ANR for over 50 years now and my M-i-L tells me that she still feels that way daily, as does her husband. She does have milk which I guess adds to that but she’ll openly say that she feels it whether she’s full or not.
Lucy, as I plan to be in a loving ANR as a long-term lifestyle, it’s encouraging to read about couples like your in-laws. Just curious: how old is your M-i-L, if you don’t mind sharing? (as an anecdotal example of the possibilities for late-in-life lactation.)
@tikikali I know of a 64 year old lady who is currently lactating
I know that my AMR partner and I both just crave it for the same reasons expressed above. We can nurse for a long time and then maybe nap or make love. It’s one of the most intimate acts that partners can perform. She loves all aspects and can have an orgasm while nursing. i can have the same.
I guess it goes both ways. Both partners feel this insatiable desire to bond over this beautiful practice. It’s comforting to know as a man that your woman needs you just as much!
If I remember correctly, the hormone associated with the production (prolactin) and expression of milk is different than the pleasure/bonding hormone (oxytocin). Being “dry” doesn’t prevent you from experiencing the pleasure, so perhaps your feeling of an urgent need to nurse is your body needing that oxytocin hit. I may have the names of the hormones wrong but I think this is the process.
You are correct, prolactin needed to start milk production. Oxytocin is needed for the letdown process as well as the “feel good” stuff. Even if Oxytocin is involved, and no prolactin then milk production doesn’t happen.
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