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I really don’t understand the whole hucow thing at all, it doesn’t really doesn’t seem to fall in the same category as ANR/ABF to me they have two different goals.
ANR/ABF seems to be more of a personal more one on one thing while hucow seems to be more focused on total domination, getting as many women to be hooked up to milking machines and treated as livestock on a farm, which is why when I read posts by guys looking for hucows they refer to themselves as farmers.
Really hucow seems to be a subset of ANR/ABF for those that want to totally dominate women by first dehumanizing them by calling them hucows and treating them the same way you would to cows on a dairy farm.
I find the whole concept to be creepy.
Maybe I’m totally wrong with all this, So your thoughts
Hucow on its own is definitely ABF. A couple can roll play Hucow and dairyman without using any extraneous equipment. It is a lot of fun. The costumes can be quite alluring.
If that is what floats their boat, more power to them. Sometimes you just never know if you’ll like it until you try it.Me Personally, no. It is not a form of anr, abf. Let’s breakdown the meaning of both acronyms. Anr= adult NURSING relationship, usually involving the lips to the nips with intimacy (caring, gentle, passion) with emotions, bonding connection, feelings plus a partnership. Hense the word relationship.
Abf= adult breastfeeding.The lips to the nips again. But THIS DYNAMIC is is less personable. This can be more casual, less intimate, less bonding, more carefree.
You add farm equipment, which I don’t recommend , but to each their own. It, becomes a kink. Farm equipment is dangerous and is heavily protested against on fetlife. The equipment causes damage to the breast. Which can cause skin tears infection, abcesses and damage to the milk glands. All I know, is that if anyone come at me, with this.. in a DM, it would result in a HARD block.
Most woman I’ve spoken too want the soft side of anr/abf. But there are those that like pain! Tehe..
Just my .02 cents.
It can be whatever 2 consenting adults want it to be. If they want the hucow thing as part of ANR, then do be it.
I do agree with Btrfly that you shouldn’t do anything stupid that can do harm.
I see it as a different kind of breastfeeding. It isn’t nurturing and affectionate, it’s the BDSM side of milking. You can love doing both or just one, no judgement about what you get out of it. Just like some experience ABF as purely platonic and others experience it as a very erotic and sexual thing. As long as it’s safe, sane and consensual 🥰
I place hucows in the same subset as ABDL, a lot more goes into the role playing aspect of both than just nursing. I see hucows more of a slave role in a dynamic because they are not making any decisions (cows don’t make decisions). However it’s something both parties consented to in their dynamic.
On a kink site we should be mindful of kink shaming others. Saying NMK= Not my kink, can suffice. Adult nursing is taboo, we can all be in a space together. I’d love to hear from others who have other interest in subsets of adult nursing but post and negative comments pushes them into the shadows. Let not yuck someones yum.
Looking only at strict definitions, the two topics are incongruous. But perhaps with a more loose interpretation there may be some overlap between them. The BDSM angle of the hucow kink tends to be seen as harsh and divisive, but there is another variety that is much gentler and more affectionate.
The end goal may be the same- to produce milk. But imagine it being done as an act of paternal nurturing. Extravagant dinners with the richest foods, followed by rubs and massages. Long nursing and pumping sessions, all in service of the milk supply.
@bella3 I agree with you in that we should not be kink shaming or yucking someone’s yum on a kink site.
Unfortunately, this concept is lost on many on this very site because they do not see ANR as a kink, they view it as anything but a kink. Many of these same people are quick to then slap the kink label onto ABF. I don’t know where the idea of ABF only existing in kinky sexual encounters came from, but it needs to die. There are plenty of people that have induced, are inducing, or are seeking lactating partners for platonic nursing with no sexual contact wanted.
ANR/ABF is whatever anyone wants it to be, no one should be codifying it for others.Addressing not understanding hucow thing. I don’t get it either because I do not want to be a hucow and I have no interest in having a hucow. However, I do understand that dehumanizing aspect of it is not all about degradation, disrespect, and domination. There are varying degrees of it, and the extent to which it is lived is determined by each individual and their partnership.
As far as helping someone understand it, all I can suggest is that you do your own research with an open mind, a closed mind will never let information in.
This goes for any activity platonic or kinky; you do not have to understand it, but don’t shame it, and please do not make assumptions about it.
I know for me personally its a hard no. If someone refers to me as a hucow its an instant block.
I don’t think the hucow angle has much to do with ANR/ABF except in that there are breasts and milk involved. I also don’t think it’s much about being a farmer, etc. That’s just ancillary roleplaying.
It’s more about objectification of a woman’s body, especially her breasts, to such an extreme that she no longer exists as a human being. Indeed, she no longer has human breasts, even, she has “udders,” and so on.
Depersonalization and objectification is common in many kinks. Look at more extreme bondage scenes, for example, and you will find similar: The person’s head will often be totally masked, visually eliminating the distraction of personhood. Limbs may be bound in positions making certain sexual body parts the visual focus or “free to use,” reducing the person to a body part rather than a human, and so on.
On the kink-shaming point, it’s good to remember that (among consensual adults) the person being depersonalized and objectified wants exactly that just as badly or more so than the person implementing the objectification.
And I love tbe whole hucow thing. It’s just a fun escape into fantasy that my body is perfect for. It’s not why I lactate. It’s just a hobby. Not a career. But it doesn’t matter anyway. I’ll do me. You do you. We’ll all be fine.
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