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Why is wet nursing an important aspect of ANR for you?
For me;
1. It carves out time to connect during the day.
2. Maintaining a milk supply symbolizes commitment to the relationship, and each other.
3. It’s comforting and can bring a sense of contentment.
4 health benefits for both partners.
5 it’s a beautiful way to love and cherish each other.Could the same not be said for dry nursing (with different health benefits)?
@new-in-nj I’d say so. Other than the lack of milk they are very similar. Dry nursing a bit more erotic for me.
@grogman, thank you. That was my point. I understand some men only want milk but don’t say the other benefits can’t be derived from dry nursing.
@New in nj; you bring up an interesting point. From my understanding dry nursing doesn’t require the same level of commitment as wet nursing. Is it true that when a woman is lactating that she needs to nurse or pump every few hours to prevent engorgement, or am I wrong.
I may be wrong but I think @new-in-nj is saying that dry nursing is just a valid as wet nursing. There’s a lot of sucklers who can be so focused on milk.
I agree. There is an over emphasis on wet nursing and milk. Dry nursing can be just as involved and committed as wet nursing. It’s all about the partners and the interest in the relationship. Milk doesn’t create the relationship. Most of the milk focused men on here are actually in it just for the fetish experience and have no interest in continuing further. They want a lactating woman, but don’t want to participate in the process of getting there.
@thirstycanadian Each and every one of those statements applies to dry nursing.
Dry-nursing does have its own set of benefits, but the physicality of actually producing the milk does make things more interesting. True that getting to this point in the first place takes a lot of work and that this effort suggests a strong bond. At least for me, the real benefit comes after that stage.
I find it extremely rewarding that wet-nursing creates a few basic but powerful needs that can be directly satisfied. For instance, if she’s producing 40 ounces a day, that’s going to work up an appetite. But something as simple as a trip to the buffet leading to a nice full stomach can create a very real and tangible satisfaction. Likewise, when she forgot her pump at home for a workday and shows up engorged and aching, just by nursing you can provide relief beyond words.
I think dry or wet are both great for their own reasons. I love when I have milk and I can nourish my partner. But it’s not always a practical thing really… if there is a baby involved the overproduction can be a bit of an issue to deal with. Producing also takes a lot out of a woman physically.. as far as nutrients, maintaining weight, etc.
I get the same feelings of connection with dry or wet. As mentioned before, I really enjoy being able to nourish my partner when I have milk. But with dry nursing, I enjoy pretty much the same benefits but with less stress on my body overall@Rose: I definitely agree with you that dry nursing is definitely valid, and in no way am I trying to discredit it. I also agree that a lot of guys can be focused on milk for selfish reasons.
@mn2535 you hit the nail on the head. It’s those basic and powerful needs that bring a whole different and might I add powerful dynamic to the relationship. I really appreciate your example of her coming to you because she forgot her pump. To me it really illustrates how wet nursing can strengthen and bring the bonding experience to an instinctual level.
@flowrgardn; I definitely agree with you that a lot of guys can be focussed on the milk for the wrong reasons, and I think it’s a shame that they don’t want to do the work to help bring it in. In my mind why should they have access to the Buffet if they won’t help cook meals. For me that’s not the case at all. I would love to go through the induction journey with someone. I’ve done it before, so I can definitely appreciate the amount of work and sacrifice that it takes. I agree with you that you can’t build a relationship solely on milk. There’s definitely more that needs to take place to build a strong relationship. If two people don’t share common values the relationship isn’t going to go far. I agree with you that everything I said in my original post can apply to dry nursing, in no way am I saying that it’s not a valid form of ANR. I’ve seen a lot of posts from both men and women who have an interest in milk on here and other sites. I wanted to know what entices people to go through the work of bringing it in. I can’t imagine for every person it’s kink or fetish related, at least for me it’s not.
@dani; I really appreciated your post. How do the feelings that you get when you nourish your partner with milk differ from the feelings of connection and intimacy you feel from dry nursing?
I think for me, being able to offer milk while I was lactating was a special thing… with offering milk, I felt like I was protecting and literally nurturing him. It wasn’t a mommy thing for me, though. He’s my equal. It was just something nice to be able to give.
With dry nursing I feel we have more of a long term ability though. As it is more sustainable and I still feel so connected that way too. It feels less overwhelming/scary too because he has always enjoyed suckling. ABF is less familiar and is new territory for sure.
like I think I would emphasize again that it can really be a lot for ladies to lactate on a long term basis, if they are producing enough to feed a little one. I was committed to nursing/pumping for my son for 18 months, and dropped a ton of weight doing so. I think if I added regular nursing from my partner, I might have gotten unhealthily thin. It might be different with two partners just inducing on their own though. And you can control how much milk there is that way too@Dani; It sounds like sharing your milk with your Husband was a really special time for the boath of you, and that dry nursing plays an important part in your relationship. Thanks for sharing with me. BTW it’s nice to see someone else active on here from WPG.
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