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Maybe it s just me, but I think it absolutely appropriate to ask people what their weight and height are. This is online socializing/dating; appearance, body language, tone of voice are important, but absent.
People sometimes get offended it seems, like physical attraction doesn’t matter, when it absolutely does. Of course personality, intelligence, chemistry, and spirituality matter, but they are harder to determine. Why not get the easy one out of the way first off?
Agree? Disagree? Am I missing something?
I’d say… asking height is probably safe territory.
Asking weight?
Hmmm.
Tread carefully my friend …
I’m just sayin’I don’t have a problem about asking someone’s height, but yes I do think it’s rude to ask someone’s weight. If u r chatting and getting to know someone then exchange photos or have a video chat. U can then see if there is the physical attraction u r looking for.
Asking height I’d say is definitely fine, weight is something you can get your answer from with a photo.
If you specifically care about how much someone weighs, even after seeing a photo, of course it’s an option to ask, but you may not get a favourable response.
If it’s so important to you that it’s worth the risk of being the end of communication, you’d be wise to ask and find out the reaction sooner rather than later.
@grogman 🤣🤣
I’ve never been asked my weight by a man before ever, is this the new Normal now?
@juicyboobies
I was always taught that it was bad manners to ask a woman her weight or age. Metric or sae it’s impolite. 😉😜😂🤣
What’s next? Asking about cup size? How many teeth you have?🙄He likes them thin just like many people have preferences. It’s totally fine. The only people who have a problem are porkers themselves.
To me both are immaterial…..!
@juicyboobies it’s not a new norm that I’m aware of, like you I have never been asked. I have been asked about breast size and that question gets someone blocked immediately.
@grogman you are correct, it is rude. Rather than asking about someone’s weight, it would be a better option for someone to list their personal preferences in their profile. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that ask about cup size, and there are also men that state their cup size preference on their profile. If it’s not something that matters to someone it’s question that really shouldn’t be asked.@FoxtrotJulietBravo, it’s just plain fucking rude to refer to someone as a “porker”. And “porkers” your term not mine, are not the only ones that find it offensive.body shaming is no okay, and plenty of men and women do have a preference for people on the thicker side.
Not just rude, but wrong.
The problem is the sexist world we live in, the body shaming it creates, and how people are negatively affected by it.
We all have our preferences for physical attraction. As others have said, a picture tells you all you need to know.
I agree with the others: Asking someone’s height is generally fine, as you want to get some idea of the physique of the person you’re interacting with; but asking for someone’s weight can seem very specific, as though you have a ‘type’ of physique in mind, which can be quite offensive to some.
Some people describe their own characteristics in their profile info, such as “I’m quite slim / average / big and curvy”. Some also describe what kind of partner they’re ideally looking for in terms of appearance. There’s no right or wrong, but it’s worth remembering you’re dealing with people just like yourself; everyone is unique, physically as well as mentally, and we all want to be treated as people.
If you prefer someone of a light & slender build, or a larger physique, maybe you should just add that to your profile, or mention it when conversing with women. But I would suggest that you try using the word ‘build’ rather than asking for ‘weight’. If someone’s weight really matters to you, you’ll find out when you actually meet someone in person; and to get to that point, someone needs to feel comfortable with you and your desires.
Height, in my opinion, I fine, but weight is a pretty sticky wicket to handle, probably asking for a photo might be a better tact, then by looking at such aspects as wrists, ankles, necks and judging that against her height should give you a fair approximation.
But be warned many women on the site are Reubenesque, something I thoroughly enjoy.
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