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I was thinking about this a few days ago, after thinking about it for most of the day, I know that I would never be true happy in a relationship unless nursing is a part of it. So that has me wondering how many people that feel the way I do.
For people that utilize “vanilla” dating sites do you bring up nursing right away? I can imagine a man asking a woman to ask nursing to the relationship is probably more difficult than a women asking a man.
I personally bring it up fairly quickly, usually after a couple of dates. If it’s something a man is not interested in I let them know right away that we are not compatible. Even before getting into nursing I made sure sexual compatibility is there, without it you’re just friends or roommates.
So what are everyones thoughts on this?
I find that I get more results from sites like this for contacting women about ANR/ABF. They are usually looking for both in a relationship as I am. It cuts to the chase, if you will. Vanilla dating sites are too generalized and too time wasting wading through niceties and such only to come to a dead end.
I desire breastfeeding in any relationship going forward. I live love and crave it !
No. I couldn’t.
I agree
Once I’ve been into an ANR relationship I can’t have a regular (vanilla) relationship anymore.
I wouldn’t call relationships outside this vanilla. The last guy I was with was super fun and good looking. This is something that I’ve always wanted, but it’s not the end of the world.
I was married twice, both cheaters, who had no trespassing signs hanging on their chest, I promised myself, never again!!!, the closeness and bonding is just too important for me anyway
I still get hits from one vanilla site. And yes, the first thing I ask, is are you into anr/abf? Most ask what it is, a few say the would try it and I would say no thanks. Meet on gal one this site, who lives in town and she wanted to try it. She says she liked it, but we never met again, but we chat on kik and she relives her single afternoon.
It’s a lot easier to find a compatible, local partner on a conventional dating site. So yes, I am willing to date/be involved in a non-nursing relationship. Nonetheless, my next monogamous relationship will be an ANR. Without an ANR, I could be happy, but content–no.
It’s pretty rough to dismiss potential partners because they’re not into ABF. I wonder if you can compartmentalize. As far as I’m concerned, sex and ABF don’t have to be connected. I would be fulfilled in a platonic ANR.
I think there’s a different question. How much are you willing to sacrifice–when it comes to compatibility and attraction–to find an ANR?
As far as I’m concerned anr is the equivalent of kissing, cuddling, massages, etc. I would not be in a relationship where those forms of care and contact are missing. I’m also not interested in a relationship that doesn’t doesn’t have any sexual kinks to it. There is no point in being in a relationship when you’re not happy. I can have a anr without being in a relationship, I will not settle just because someone is into it. As far as attraction goes, I’m not typical and physical appearance is not at the top of my priority list for attraction. A person’s moral compass and personality are far more important.
I’m not saying relationships that do not have an anr/abf component are vanilla. I used that word to describe sites like pof, okc, and match, since none of those site have anything for listing kinks, fetishes, or sexual preferences. If a woman were to put in her profile that she wants someone that is into or would consider anr/abf she would likely get messages from ever Tom, Dick, and Harry; dating sites are bad enough as it is without throwing that out there.
You need to find an ass man or a boob man. Boob men will be into this. Just got to show them the way. You’re only vanilla if you think you are. Being a female, it’s a lot easier. Sorry guys.
I agree with FoxtrotJulietBravo. When looking for a long term partner these a lot of comparability checks with ABF possibly being just one of them. When I’ve dated I’ve looked for someone who shares same core interests and has same positive outlook to life. ABF maybe a compromise but then I’ll be gaining so much more in other areas I’m passionate about, like marble collecting…joke! 😅
I’ve had anr in numerous relationships. But I truly think they did it for me and not themselves. Now that I’m in a committed relationship with anr,(it’s how we met, off this site). I couldn’t imagine not being able to nurse whenever I want. And the bond we have is unbreakable. And I know you’re going to read this so yes babe I love you and I’m glad you messaged me!
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