32 M4F, Central Jersey for anywhere, in need of a partner but a friend first

Edit of my last personal ad, hope that’s okay, I felt like it was missing something important.

Hiya, howya? I go by Cassius. Favorite color is purple; Purple of Cassius is a dye that makes both my favorite color purple and my favorite color red in glass. I suck at chemistry though, so it’s really just down to how much I like those colors.

I suppose I should start with this so that folks can not waste too much time reading. I’m looking for a friendship first that I hope grows into a relationship that will last the rest of my life, and I want to start a family someday with that woman. Still open to talk to just about anyone though, however I’m sure most people are too busy or simply want to conserve energy in pursuit of fulfilling their needs.

I’ve been in ANRs before but not for a long time, like almost a decade long time.

I’m not interested in sexting or dirty talk or what have you, generally, with strangers, I’m terrible at it in fact and I’m not interested in casual anything. I detest ‘situationships’ as my younger family members call them. I got more and more old fashioned about commitment and monogamy the older I got so I don’t want to deal with people entertaining a roster where you need to compete, beg, and scrape for their attention or a slot in a schedule. If I’m giving you my full attention and time, I’d hope to have it reciprocated should things get to that point.

More so than anything else right now I am lonely, and I miss connection, I miss giving and receiving care and affection and being able to be vulnerable with another person.

But desperation makes people trust too easily and get hurt, right? At least that’s what life has taught me the hard way.

So, if anyone is willing to take the time to get to know each other and just see what happens feel free to message me.

That being said I’m willing to talk with you regardless of location, for the right person I’d find a way.

Last few things, I suppose.

I’m not for everyone in that I’m very awkward at times, I’m not particularly good at speaking with people and sometimes I’ll derail a conversation entirely without realizing it, sometimes I just start talking about random things, I’m working on it still, but I’d be happy to talk.

My range of interests are pretty broad but a few things I truly love doing are brewing wine and mead, writing fantasy, and watching long form content on youtube which occasionally leads to rabbit holing for hours on end on weekends on topics no one really cares about.

Being as clear and honest with me as possible is much appreciated as well if you choose to communicate with me. Patience too is always appreciated, I know we all want the perfect person to fall into our laps but sometimes finding someone means working out how to communicate best with each other and feeling each other out and finding those things you like rather than hoping for sparks. Meeting people is awkward in general often but can be rewarding, more so when you’re vetting them for future intimacy.

Hope to hear from, well, anyone I guess as New Jersey seems pretty barren when it comes to ANR and ABF. Thanks for taking the time to read this.