As we all know this is nothing new. It is already taught in school through The Grapes Of Wrath, Greek Mythology, Roman history, etc. It is in religion and adoption methods in tribes. It is even in pop culture as we saw in the episode of “The Boys” or in anime like “Qwaser of Stigmata”. As discussed before this is present in many countries like China, Japan, India, USA, Uganda, etc.
I read a medical article that summarized my own beginning down this path where father’s are encouraged to help with nursing to remove blockages, relieve engorgement, and stimulate production. In that article the doctor said “you can’t put two sexually active people together with a lactating woman and not have a certain amount of curiosity” so, I think this is more common than we think. People just don’t want to admit they tried it (or got excited/pleasured by it).
I think this is a complex issue that would need conversations and normalization on multiple topics as I believe there are multiple facets of this that can bring stigma to ANR/ABF. These include: birth rates, formula use, nursing of babies, society rules, porn industry, sexual/physical preferences, government regulation of breast milk, wet nursing, etc.
I also think that there above topics provide many opportunities for us to talk about, share, and normalize ANR and ABF. To me the more/longer general breastfeeding is encouraged it will help us and is acceptable to discuss to a degree. As a man this is also more difficult as this is an inherently female topic. I also think the more we all ask for ANR/ABF during the “sex talk” of dating in a respectful and considerate way it will also slowly bring this into normalization. This inherently requires the “poker face” to create a safe space for each person to express sexual desires free of judgement and control.
Though I think there are also more opportunities to discuss this with family at least when babies are around. In my own family my mom traded kids with her sister to see what it was like when I was 5. My brother’s wife expressed milk for his coffee. And my ex’s sisters squirted their younger kids when feeding. We can also encourage family members to breastfeed as long as they can, ask if Dad is helping, and privately share how Dad could help with breastfeeding instead of going to the doctor. I also agree the more we like, share, comment, and click on posts about this topic in various media the more algorithms will penetrate the general public for us like Elizabeth originally posted. Maybe even use our collective burner accounts to share this website.